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TMHS 703: Use These Mental Meals to Build More Confidence & Strengthen Your Mindset
“The mind is just like a muscle – the more you exercise it, the stronger it gets and the more it can expand.” – Idowu Koyenikan
Our mindset has a profound impact on our lives and the types of outcomes we are able to achieve. Building a strong mindset is a key component of accomplishing any goal, because it’s your mindset that allows you to stay focused, overcome negative thoughts, and effectively handle challenges.
On this compilation episode, you’re going to hear seven powerful insights from inspiring guests about building mental strength and resilience. These insights will remind you of your power, help you build confidence, and transform your mindset. You’re going to learn from some of the most successful, inspiring minds, including Dr. Eric Thomas, Mel Robbins, Prince Ea, and more.
No matter what you’re trying to achieve or what types of challenges you’re facing, building a strong mindset will help you build confidence and perform at your highest capacity. This episode will help you take responsibility, reframe negative thoughts, redefine failure, and cultivate self-love. I hope you enjoy this compilation episode of The Model Health Show!
In this episode you’ll discover:
- How taking ownership for your life gives you control.
- Why making excuses is holding you back.
- The role your environment plays in your outcomes.
- Three emotional needs every human has.
- Why a high five can serve as a powerful affirmation.
- The most overlooked detail about affirmations and mantras.
- How stepping out of a victim mentality can give you peace.
- Why your past traumas can provide an opportunity to help others.
- How to change the way you think about confidence.
- The relationship between confidence and competence.
- Why redefining failure will help you grow.
- How to reframe your negative thoughts.
- The difference between pleasure and happiness.
- Why it’s critical to find and master your craft.
- The power of vulnerability.
- How loving yourself can help you love others.
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- Foursigmatic.com/model — Get an exclusive 10% discount on your daily health elixirs!
- Organifi.com/Model — Get FREE Pure when you purchase the Sunrise to Sunset Kit!
- Take Control of Your Mind with Dr. Eric Thomas – Episode 617
- The Science of Self-Belief with Mel Robbins – Episode 514
- Let Go of What’s Holding You Back with Lewis Howes – Episode 666
- Break Through Your Mental Barriers with Lisa Bilyeu – Episode 611
- How to Transform Our World from the Inside Out with Prince Ea – Episode 639
- Unlock More Happiness, Health, & Success with Jairek Robbins – Episode 594
- Why Improving Mental Health Is the Key with Zachary Levi – Episode 635
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Shawn Stevenson: Welcome to the Model Health Show. This is fitness and nutrition expert Shawn Stevenson, and I'm so grateful for you tuning in to me today. Our thoughts, our actions, and our results that we get in the real world are all first and foremost a result of our thinking. It's a result of our mindset. It's a result of our perception of ourselves and the world around us. Now, what if we were able to see ourselves in the best possible light? What if we were able to understand that we're going to go through struggles and turbulence and to still have compassion and patience and understanding for ourselves? What if we're able to lift ourselves up when we are facing our trying times? And not to beat ourselves down even more when we are in a place of struggle. Now, like most things in life, it's a muscle that we've got to build to build up that resilience. And on this episode, I want to provide some of the most powerful insights from some of the most inspirational people that I know. And also, we're talking about the leaders in their field when looking at motivation, when looking at performance, when looking at optimizing our mindset.
So, we're going to be hearing from New York Times bestselling authors, we're going to be hearing from the top people in the world, top motivational and inspirational speakers, and strategists in the world to help essentially this episode today to remind you of how powerful you are. Because that's another part of this equation. Yes, we want to build this muscle, but part of that is being able to have people who are our training partners in our mindset to help us to remember to work those muscles and have these messages to refer back to when we need them.
And for that, I have seven of the most remarkable human beings and their messages to remind you again how remarkable you are, how capable you are, and also how to traverse some of our challenging times with some simple changes to our perception, with some simple changes to our mindset.
Now, before we get into these seven powerful messages, I want to share a new study with you about coffee. Now, you know that I am big on science and staying up to date with the latest peer-reviewed research. Well, a new study found that by quitting coffee, you can have up to a 60% decrease of joy in your life.
I'm sorry, that was of course just a joke. There's not a study connecting quitting coffee to a loss of joy, but it might be anecdotal for many people. So, this is not an advocation to quit coffee. However, what this is, is to be mindful of the studies that we are looking at. And with that said, I always like to cite the sources of where this information is coming from, and also to take a meta perspective and to not just hang our hat on one particular study. And what I like to do is look at studies that refute the benefits of coffee and look at the negative side, and also on the other side of the spectrum, the potential benefits, because the truth lies generally somewhere in the middle. And here's the thing, the vast majority of studies on coffee show a wide range of replicable benefits in randomized controlled trials. So higher quality studies in the first place.
Now, is this to say that everybody should be drinking coffee? Absolutely not. However, what we tend to see is blanket statements regarding coffee if somebody's had problems regarding coffee. And also, you've got to also keep in mind that we all have a unique metabolism for things like caffeine. They really can hyper stimulate someone's nervous system. And also depending on where we are in our lives. But does that mean that this substance is bad for everybody? Or dare I say, great for a nice amount of the population? Well, this speaks to a meta-analysis of 40 studies published in the European Journal of Epidemiology. And it revealed that regularly drinking coffee was associated with a lower risk of death from cardiovascular disease, from certain types of cancer, and all-cause mortality, reducing the risk of everything that you could die early from with folks who regularly are drinking coffee. Again, this was published in the European Journal of Epidemiology in 2019. Unlike the imaginary study, finding that quitting coffee can have up to a 60% decrease of joy in your life.
Now, to take this a step further, what about the metabolic benefits seen with coffee? Well, there's a really interesting connection between drinking coffee and the activation of our brown adipose tissue, which is a tissue that is incredibly metabolically active. It's brown because it has such a dense concentration of mitochondria, and this is where fat is actually burned. When we lose fat from our fat cells, that's a process called lipolysis. But the fat doesn't actually get "burned" until it makes its way to our mitochondria. Now, a fascinating connection again between coffee and metabolism is highlighted in a recent study published in the journal Scientific Reports, scientists from the School of Medicine at the University of Nottingham discovered that coffee is able to induce or influence the activity of our brown adipose tissue. The researchers use thermal imaging and found that drinking coffee actually lights up brown fat dominant locations on our bodies indicating increased thermogenesis. Pretty remarkable. So, we're talking about increasing or improving or activating the metabolic hardware on our bodies so that we're expending more caloric energy just automatically. But I don't want you to run out to that average cup of coffee just yet, because being that coffee is one of the most popular beverages in the world, it's also one of the most pesticide-laden crops in the world.
There is a variety of pesticides used use in growing coffee, and by taking a look at just one of them, you'll find a documented obesogens, aka, and obesity causing agent that depresses our metabolic health. Chlorpyrifos is one of the most widely used pesticides in the world. In a recent study cited in the peer-reviewed journal, Nature Communications stated, "Chlorpyrifos suppresses, diet-induced thermogenesis, and the activation of brown adipose tissue suggesting it may contribute to the obesity epidemic." That is absolutely crazy. Again, we're looking at coffee being this clinically proven beverage that can improve our metabolic health and activate brown adipose tissue while at the same time, if it's containing pesticides, it can be suppressing and causing the absolute opposite of the metabolic benefits that we're trying to get. It blunts the activity of our brown adipose tissue. The solution here, you better make sure that your coffee is organic. If you're going to drink coffee or organic is the priority number one. Number two let's upgrade our coffee and get coffee that's infused with time-tested, science backed medicinal mushrooms like Lion's Mane, like Cordyceps, like Chaga.
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Shawn Stevenson: Awesome. That's what it's all about. And thank you so much for taking me with you on the road, truly activating Automobile University. All right, we can hit play on an empowering podcast and get an infusion of education around nutrition, around fitness, around relationships, and of course, as today's episode is all about around inspiration and being able to truly optimize our mindset so that we're more resilient, so that we're more creative, and so that we're building the capacity to create the life that we're truly here to live. And to kick things off, we've got a segment from a conversation that I had with New York Times bestselling author and the number one motivational speaker in the world today, Dr. Eric Thomas. Now, in this segment, he's going to be sharing with you how taking responsibility gives you a superpower and how your environment follows your character. Check out this segment from the amazing Dr. Eric Thomas.
DR. ERIC THOMAS: What part do you play in your own destruction? Own that. Own that part. Don't put it on your wife, your kids, the country, bro, I got some stuff I can say about every entity, but I'm telling you, bro, when I started taking full ownership, full responsibility, I literally got my control. And I woke up one day, bro. I was like, yo, I can't even believe I'm here. I can't believe I went from that to this. But it's all because when you take responsibility at that point, you get a power that is lended to you. There's a source. You know what I'm saying? That's like, Yo, bro, I got you. I'm backing you up. It's like when I used to be young, I'd play Ms. Pacman and I'd get the banana, the strawberries, the pear, you know what I'm saying? You start eating them jokers and you hitting the power pop up, Boom, they running from me. It was like when I took responsibility, everything that once was attacking me is now running from me and everything that I once feared, I'm chasing it. I'm going after it now, and it was all the power pill I didn't realize was ownership, was taking responsibility.
I so love excuses. They like dessert to me. You know what I'm saying? I love, I absolutely love excuse. But honestly, excuses are again not a human. You need to take responsibility. But now you're giving it though. You're giving your power way to a circumstance or situation. You feel me? And so, people say to me all the time, like, Yo, bro. You should be talking about boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. You got a platform, you out here, why you not addressing? And I'm like, yo, I'm not addressing it. I'm not addressing it first in the way you want me to address it, 'cause I'm addressing it. I'm not addressing it the way you want me to. I'm not addressing it on a podcast, but I'm out in the trenches for real, for real, addressing it. But what I will not do is I will not give the power that our young people have to any circumstance or situation. Because if there's a circumstance or situation that a human created, you have the power to overcome that because it was a human that created it. So, anything a human does as a human, you could counterattack the attack.
So, for me then excuse is giving you an out from making your dreams and goals become a reality, and we can't do that. We are in a no-fly zone, you know what I'm saying? It's a no-fly zone. It's a no excuse zone. Like we cannot make excuses. Why? Because excuses create opportunities for us not to make it happen. So, when people say racism, bruh, that's it. Okay, you call that excuse, you can call it whatever you want to call it, it's not going to stop me and De-De from living the lifestyle we supposed, it's not going to stop me from PJN first class in it and it's not going to stop me from Dubai, whatever. I don't care what my man thinks about the color of my skin, that's his problem. That don't have nothing to do with me and my family and my dreams and my goals. You're not about to stop me. I don't care what legislation you put together.
I don't care what you think about me, what you say about me, it does not matter. Why? Because it has nothing to do with this temporary experience called life that I only get so many years and I want to live into the fullest. You, you, you, that this, that is not going to stop me from De-De. Where you want to live, what you want to drive, what you want to eat. Oh, well, food is expensive in California, I could care less how expensive it is. De-De, what you want to eat? How often do you want to eat it? What color do you want? Do you want room temperature hot. Like yo, we got a temporary experience. So, for me, excuses are the more complicated things that are meant to stop you from living the life you want to live. And so, no, I can't, we can't do excuses. We can only do execution.
Shawn Stevenson: So, and this brings us to... This is probably my favorite quote in the book.
Dr. Eric Thomas: Okay.
Shawn Stevenson: It says, "You can change environments, but until you change yourself, nothing will ever change."
Dr. Eric Thomas: Yeah. Yeah. Man, I just had friends that were substance abusers. I'll never forget it. It don't matter what city I brought them to, bro, they would find it. I'm like, Yo, how do you find that? [laughter] How you find that here? Who do you know that you don't even know nobody here. How did you find, who did you, how did you, and it just showed me, it's like, yo, it's not the environment, the environment follows the human, the environment follows the human. It's not like, yo, I'm in this environment, but when I leave and I go to Kansas, that's going to be a... No, it's not. Whatever environment you were in, in that city, you going to take that, you're going to go to the next city and the queues, and the clues and the rules are going to be like, hey, here we go. You looking for this? Here it goes. You looking for that? Here it go.
And so, for me, bro, when I travel and everybody was like, yo, how you know all these good people? Like, how you know people that you could leave your wallet, your wife, your kids? Like how do you know so many good human beings? How are you with people that are not manipulative? Like, man, why you got friends that's constantly like pubbing you up and pubbing. Why aren't they envious or jealous? Why do you all support each other in a way? Like how do you get that many friends that's so supportive? I was like, yo, when you become supportive, you attract a supportive. When you become a person of standards and integrity, you attract a per... It's like, yo, all y'all married all y'all, y'all not all happy. Y'all, not... All y'all kids that, come on this not...
I'm like, bruh, when you become it, the environment supports what you become. It brings the right energy and the right people and the right human resources and physical resources and material resources. Like the universe is like, Yo, this is who you are. So, for me, it's like, bro, when you are, the environment supports who you are. But for so long I thought if I would just get out to my parents' house, my life would be better. I was homeless.
Shawn Stevenson: You taking you with you.
Dr. Eric Thomas: I went with me. I was with me everywhere I went. I couldn't get away from me. And that's why I said, will the real Eric Thomas, please stand up. And I knew it was another Eric in there, and I wanted him to emerge and lead us and not to trifling, as my grandmother would say, the irresponsible, the victim dude. I didn't want him leading us no more. I wanted the victor to lead us. And he finally emerged, and my environment changed, and everything changed. Once he emerged. Like you said, I don't think that there's something that's going to miraculously happen to you. I think that person is inside of you. Like you said, you just haven't connected the mind, the body, the soul, like you haven't gotten on one of the cords in alignment with everybody to bring that best person out. But I do believe for all of us, that person is inside of all of us waiting desperately to come out. Pick me, let me, get me in the game. Let me in, coach, I'm ready to take us to the championship.
Shawn Stevenson: All right, next up in this inspiration compilation, we have New York Times best-selling author Mel Robbins. Now Mel really helped to kick off the revolution of TED Talks. Her TED Talk is one of the most viewed of all time and a little-known story that she shared on the complete episode. By the way, all of these segments you're going to hear today, you can get the full episode in the show notes if you want to refer back to them or listen to the full conversation. But she shared with me something that a lot of people don't know is that that TED Talk that she did, that was really her first public speech or public talk she's ever done. All right? She had some experience in the courtroom in her former life as a lawyer, but to be able to speak on stage in front of people like that, that was her first time, which is crazy to know what came out of that.
And in this segment, she's going to be sharing some powerful insights about our feelings of worthiness. How a high five functions like a bio hack for building confidence, including high fiving yourself in the mirror, which just sounds so strange, but you're going to hear why it's so effective. Plus, you're going to hear about the most overlooked detail about affirmations. Check out the segment from the amazing Mel Robbins.
Mel Robbins: So, they want them to know, what's the best way to motivate somebody through a challenging problem or a challenging situation? So, they divide kids into three groups, and they give them a very challenging problem to work on. And they use three forms of motivation. One is verbal praise in terms of praising a trait. We know this, the fixed mindset. Hey, you are so smart, you're doing a great job. That is the least motivating way to help somebody through a challenging problem. The second group got the growth mindset, which is to praise somebody verbally for their effort. Oh my gosh, I see you working so hard. I see your grit. I see you putting in the effort. Great job. That certainly works better than telling somebody that they're smart because you anchor them down in something they control, which is the amount of effort they put in. The third group of kids working on a challenging problem. Got a simple high five from the researcher. No words, no nothing, just a high five. Those kids that got the high five, they outworked everybody else. They had a better out, they had a better attitude. They worked through more challenges. They 5X the whole thing. And the answer is why? Here's why. A high five communicates even more than I believe in you. We got this. Keep going. I celebrate you. I love you.
A high five validates your most profound, fundamental emotional needs. Every single human being on the planet has three emotional needs. You need to be seen, you need to feel heard, and you need to feel celebrated and accepted for the unique individual that you are. When you receive a high five, especially during a challenging moment, you feel seen, you also feel heard because you feel like that high five represents, they get that I'm going down and you feel celebrated. It is a shared moment of emotional affirmation. And so, we have for our entire lives looked outside of ourselves for that. We chase likes, we chase validations. We think if we're dating or married to the right person, it means that we're lovable. The truth is you got to learn how to give that to yourself.
And I am here to tell you that if you create a habit in the morning, just habit stack it right with brushing your teeth where you stand there, you be with yourself, you set an intention for how you're going to show up today, what game are you going to play, and then you seal that sucker with a high five. You are literally building in the habit of self-validation, self-support, self-respect, self-esteem, self-confidence, self-celebration. It is so freaking powerful. And I am so passionate about this. Not only because I am standing on the research of people way smarter than me, but I am seeing the millions of followers that I have profoundly change their lives.
A woman, for example, check this out, a woman for example, who had dysmorphia for 20 years could not look at herself in the mirror. Just five days of doing this can now look at herself in grin because she's not seeing a body, she's seeing the human being. We receive the most amazing testimonial from a woman who was in a domestic violence shelter for battered women. She wrote to us about how she has severe childhood trauma. She has just escaped this very violent relationship. She has nothing but herself and her two kids. And by looking in the mirror and setting an intention and seeing herself and being with herself and high fiving herself, she said, I am realizing at least I have me.
Shawn Stevenson: Yeah.
Mel Robbins: I can have my own back.
Shawn Stevenson: Yeah, I love this. It's the stories married with the science as well. You really speak my language. It's so amazing. That particular study, and it was published in Frontiers in Psychology, by the way, we'll put this study for folks, it surprised me that the affirmative words weren't more impactful, but then it made sense immediately because in a sense you have to believe it.
Mel Robbins: Yes.
Shawn Stevenson: When we're talking about, yeah, so go ahead.
Mel Robbins: Yeah. Okay. So, what you're talking about... So, we're going to talk about two topics based on this question. Okay. So, you just said it's surprising that the affirmative words weren't more impactful. Here's why. Number one, affirmations, and mantras don't work unless you believe them. So, if you hate the way you look, you cannot stand in front of a mirror and be like, I love myself, I love myself, I love... Because you don't yet. There are two reasons why the high five works though, because number one, you don't have to think or say anything because the messaging is already programmed here with the physical movement. And then there's a second reason. And this was just validated by Dr. Daniel Amen, who I know you know.
Shawn Stevenson: Yeah.
Mel Robbins: And so, the world's leading brain expert with 65,000 brain scans. So, I just met with him about the high five habit. And here are two really killer things about the high five habit and why it's so impactful to high five yourself. So, this motion and this motion, the high five, we've been raising our arms in celebration. What do you do when you score a touchdown? Whoaaaa! What do you do when you cross a finish line? Aah. What do you do when the band that you love comes out? Aah. What do you do when you see somebody you love? Give me a hug. When you high five somebody, you're raising your arm. The raised hand physical movement is wired into your nervous system as a celebratory, Whoaaaa! Kind of thing. And so, it gives you this jolt of energy when you do it, whether you feel energized or not. And more importantly, it also gives you a dopamine drip. And so, in addition to the subconscious messaging, the physical movement impacts your nervous system. It also gives you a little dopamine drip, which boosts your confidence and your mood immediately, which makes you more receptive to feeling that positive messaging. What the hell? I mean, this like one movement has so much that's just... You can unpack with it.
Shawn Stevenson: So, you mentioned some things that we require for emotional development. We need to feel seen; we need to feel acknowledged; we need to feel like we matter. And so... But that self-acknowledgement or even self-celebration in our culture, we are oftentimes taught to not do those things.
Mel Robbins: Always, not even oftentimes.
Shawn Stevenson: So, let's talk about that a little bit.
Mel Robbins: Well, I think this is conditioned into human development. So, in our family systems, part of the problem with being in the business that we're in and understanding the science of things is every single day I do something, and I think, oh my God, that's going to be three years of therapy for my kid. Like you know they’re literally getting the messaging that there's something wrong with you, or you better do it this way, or I'm not going to like you. And so, you get taught to fit in and fold into whatever system you're in. And so, you start suppressing your need to be seen and to express yourself in order to get along, in order to fit in, in order to not piss off mom or dad, in order to receive the love and attention that you need. And so, I feel like, you go through this mode in life where you're born perfect, whole, and complete, beautifully designed to become an adult. To grow.
Nobody has to be told how to crawl. It's in your DNA to watch what's going on around you and to just keep going and trying and going and trying until you figure it out. Every baby, when they can crawl towards a mirror, they don't look in the mirror and are like, "Ugh, look at those fat thighs." They literally put their hands up on it and they love their reflection. It is encoded in your being to love and celebrate yourself. But what happens is you start getting told, no, no, no, no, no. You get told to shut up, to sit down, to be quiet, to speak, to be seen and not heard. You start to see who's in and who's out. You start to long to belong. And so, then all of a sudden you are suppressing your natural desire to express yourself and to be yourself in order to fit in with everybody else. And it's normal. We all do it. We all betray ourselves this way. And then as you become an adult, you start to feel like, I feel disconnected to myself. I feel like, there's something missing here. And what's missing is that deep connection with yourself.
And what I'm here to say is, when you start to learn how to fulfill your own emotional needs, to see yourself, to celebrate yourself, to support yourself, no matter what. A lot of people have tremendous amount of regrets. So, one of the things that happens when people first try this high five habit, you stand in front of the mirror, you're going to do one or two things. You're either going to get it immediately and feel the boost and be like, I cannot believe I've robbed myself of this forever. I am never going to not do this. Or you feel massive resistance. And this is the part that's important to unpack. If you feel the resistance to celebrating yourself, this is where your low self-esteem, your regrets, your worthlessness lives. This is where you judge yourself. Because most people, what we found is they resist doing it because they have a story in their head that they don't deserve it. I have done so many things in my past, or I have survived so much trauma in my past, I am worthless, or I am unlovable or the other side of this is, but I haven't done anything worthy of celebration.
And so, here's the sad part, if you can't support, celebrate, and empower yourself because you have survived all those things, and because you're standing here still breathing and still trying to do better, you'll never change your life because you need support, celebration, and empowerment to be able to make the changes, to be able to face the challenges. You see, supporting, celebrating, and cheering for yourself. It doesn't remove the trauma. It doesn't remove the abuse. It doesn't remove the microaggressions and the bias in this world and the violence and the poverty. What it changes is you; it changes your ability to face these things. Your ability to take the actions that move the needle on these things. That's why it's powerful.
Shawn Stevenson: Up next, in this inspiration compilation is one of the most inspiring people in my life personally. A really good friend, somebody that I've relied on for insights and conversations for many, many years. And I'm talking about my friend New York Times bestselling author Lewis Howes. Now Lewis is the host of one of the biggest podcasts in the world, the School of Greatness. And he sat down with some of the most remarkable human beings to ever walk the planet. Now, what's also remarkable about Lewis's show is that he has also shared his life and his life story and his tools and strategies for success. Because coming from where he has come from and the struggles that he has gone through himself, and he spent many years as an athlete and a professional athlete as well.
And also, in his... What will be considered later years, being able to become a member of the US handball team after years of not playing professional sports, just really speaks to his determination. And of course, he'll tell you his athleticism, all right, but also just again, his determination and his ability to create a vision and to make it real. But he has also shared his struggles and his biggest pain points. And that's what you're going to be hearing about in this segment. He's going to share how starting to operate from your power and not from your pain is revolutionary in your life. Check out this segment from the incredible Lewis Howes.
Lewis Howes: We must take our power back. We must take responsibility for the meaning we're going to create from it. And we must learn to forgive and create that peace. So again, I went through an experience of sexual abuse that I experienced where I was a victim of that experience. It's not like I was trying to do it. It happened to me. And for many, many years, 25 years, I lived as a victim quietly of that experience, which made me reactive and triggered and angry in certain scenarios in life. And it wasn't until I said, "Okay, I'm going to take my power back. I'm going to forgive, process, grieve all these different things, feel all the emotions, sadness, everything, hate, anger, vengeance, all of it. Process it and say, do I want to keep feeling this way? No. So I must learn to forgive. I must learn to dive into my shame."
I must learn to do the most uncomfortable thing for me. For me, that was revealing it to family and friends and then revealing it to eventually like the platform that I have.
Shawn Stevenson: Yeah.
Lewis Howes: Because I was so ashamed of it, it still had power over me. So, I realized for me, I'm not saying everyone needed to do this. I wanted to tell my family first and see if I could mend this feeling of shame and insecurity with my family, I did that step. It was extremely scary to tell my family. Then I said, man, okay, they're my family. They have to love me, right? They have to accept me no matter what I go through. But it created a beautiful connection with each one of us because I opened up vulnerably and they started to open up about stuff I didn't know about them.
So, we created a better bond by being vulnerable with each other. Then I was like, "Well, will my friends accept me?" this is the true test. I started telling my friends one by one, and I realized, oh, wow, they actually accepted me. Now you've got to make sure you're in the right place, discerning when you tell people something that you're scared of or ashamed of, and make sure that you think they can receive it. So that's for another conversation. But don't just open up if you feel like they're not in a good place to receive it. After that, I still thought to myself, huh, but I'm worried about how my community, my audience, my customers think of me still. It was still a fear of mine and an insecurity. If they know this about me, would they accept me? So, I just kept going down more and more levels because I wanted freedom.
Shawn Stevenson: Yeah.
Lewis Howes: I didn't feel free internally, and I thought, I just got to keep going then. So, it was every level was scary to release the shame to talk about it. But when I started to do that, I remember opening up about it publicly on my podcast. This was about nine and a half years ago, and thinking, my life is over. My business is over. No one is going to listen to me. No one is going to watch anything. Like it's over. Like, but I was like, I'd rather it be over and me be free than living a lie and people not knowing the truth about my shame.
And once I did that, it took maybe like it was a process and a journey. It took maybe another year and a half, two years until I felt like I can talk about this and not feel triggered. I can think about it and not be triggered. It doesn't mean that I wasn't frustrated about it, and I wish it didn't happen. But I can accept it, move on, forgive it, and create meaning around it. That now I have this problem in the world that I want to solve. I want to help people, especially men, which is a problem. One in six men have been sexually abused. I wanted to help men create safe environments for them to mend this shame, heal this shame, and let go of it and feel safe to talk about it. Because most men never do talk about these things, whether it's sexual abuse or any other shames. We just don't talk about it.
So, I said, now there's a problem in the world, and a lot of pain in the world is caused by men who are angry, who don't have a safe environment to communicate. When you see about all the mass shootings in the world, most of them are by men, most of them by men who struggle emotionally. They don't have a safe space. They don't have a lot of friends, and they don't feel like they can talk about or heal the different pains of their past. And if we can do that, I feel like men will be a lot more peaceful and cause less pain in their relationships. They won't leave their partners. They'll show up for their kids better. They won't hurt their communities. They'll show up better in their power, not in their pain.
So, I was like, here is a problem I want to solve. Something I went through. Now it's a problem I want to solve. My friend Rory Vaden says that we are perfectly positioned to help the person we once were. And if you lost a hundred pounds, you're perfectly positioned to help someone else who's a hundred pounds overweight. You've been through that pain, you've been through that journey, you know it better than anyone, and you're more credible because you were that at once. So maybe that's a problem that you want to solve in the world. You want to end... Rid the world of obesity and diabetes because you've reversed it for yourself. And you know the freedom on the other side. And again, it can serve us in feeling comfortable, you know, and not having to overcome and face these insecurities and fears. But it'll keep making you triggered. It'll keep making you feel powerless.
Shawn Stevenson: Yeah.
Lewis Howes: And so, if you want to be powerful and truly feel free, you have to overcome the victim consciousness, the victim mentality, and step into your power.
Shawn Stevenson: All right. I hope that you're enjoying this inspiration compilation. Up next, we've got another best-selling author and superstar in the world of podcasting. In the world of content creation, in the world of education and motivation. I'm talking about Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa is the co-founder of the Billion Dollar Quest Nutrition Brand and Impact Theory and Impact Theory Studios, which her show, that is one of the shows under that umbrella is Women of Impact. And Lisa is just an absolute powerhouse and incredibly insightful and just a really awesome person to spend time with. And in this clip, she's going to be sharing the truth about failure and a new way to think about building confidence. Check out this clip from the amazing Lisa Bilyeu.
Lisa Bilyeu: I think we mistake confidence with, we want to feel good. So, anything we want to start, I want the confidence. So, what they're really saying is, I want to feel really good about myself before I start this, because right now I'm really scared. And so, I think that that's what actually holds us back. And that was what I realized, is that we're so focusing on feeling good about ourselves before we start something that we end up getting stuck and maybe we don't take that first step forward.
So, the thing that I try to say is think about confidence as the by-product. It's the end goal. So now instead of focusing on you want that first, I want people to ask themselves right now, what do you want confidence in? 'Cause that will help orient, that will help give someone that North Star. And you can hear me talk about the North Star a lot, but that is your goal. So, if you say, I want confidence to start a YouTube channel. Okay, great. Now the great news is you can actually start a YouTube channel and still feel badly about yourself and still not know what you're doing. But what the point is, is that every day you can show up, you can try something new, and you can learn from it so that eventually maybe you have a YouTube channel, and then once you have the YouTube channel, you keep doing it until you start to get good at it. Once you start to get good at it, that's the competence part. Then once you are competent, think about it. When you walk into the gym the first day, you're freaking scared, but after a year you know how to pick up those weights. You know how to do the move. So, you walk into the gym. Even just walking into the gym, you have more confidence.
But that comes from knowing, understanding, learning, making mistakes, growing, adapting, and then the confidence is the end part. So, I think the best thing that ever happened to me was realizing, oh, stop focusing on confidence. You just want to feel good about yourself. Even when I don't know what I'm doing, even when I'm actually inadequate. It's not like, oh, but Lisa, you're just putting yourself down. No, no, I'm actually inadequate to doing this thing, but you know what, I'm not going to let that stop me. I'm going to learn.
And then you come up with a blueprint, a step-by-step guide on how you're going to get there. Because I don't about your audience and I don't know about you, but for me, that voice in my head can be crippling. The negative voice that's telling me, you’re no good, Lisa, you don't know what you're doing. Imposter syndrome alert. You're not as good as Tom. All of these thoughts are very real. And so, do I let that negative voice hold me back or do I keep going? And the radical confidence is I keep going and I figure it out along the way.
Shawn Stevenson: Yes. Oh, it's so powerful. And it's so logical too. That's the thing. We tend to have this like, I'm going to have the confidence and then do the thing. And the secret is the opposite. You develop the confidence by doing the thing. Right. But this doesn't necessarily mean you haphazardly rush into things. This is why I love your approach as well, because it's just like, what can you do to put yourself in position to increase the odds of good things happening? But even still, and I don't think a lot of people realize this, challenges are going to come up, stuff that you don't expect. You're going to have problems; you're going to have failures. But each and every one of these steps is going to help to build that confidence.
Lisa Bilyeu: Yeah. We also worry about failure, right? I think everything stems from how we think about things. And so, if you think that failing means you are a failure, you're going to feel worse about yourself, you're not going to try again. But if you just say, failing actually means that I care enough about my life to give it a shot. Now, when you fail, you're not going to feel that emotional dent that now it's a negative thing on you. You're going to be like, oh, I really care about my life and that's why I did it. And so hopefully the idea is, is that, that mindset, that way of thinking is now helping you get back up so you can go again and try again.
And so that is one thing of just how do we see failure is going to be imperative. So, one of the chapters in the book is When the sh*t hits the fan wear goggles. And the whole point of that chapter is we're so worried, Oh, my god. Is sh*t going to hit the fan? Meaning are we going to mess up? Is failure about to happen? And we so worry about it, that's what we end up focusing on. And we spend so much time and energy focused on, oh my God, I hope we don't fail.
Now, the beautiful thing is that enlightened me, was I looked at every successful person on the planet and was like, oh, they've all failed. Great. So now maybe that means it's a steppingstone in the right direction. And so now when that happens, again, you don't think of it as being part of who you are. You think of it as being part of the process. And now if you can think of it as being part of the process, you're not spending a damn minute or energy worrying about it.
What you're doing is you're thinking about if it does, what am I going to do? How am I going to show up? Am I going to let this bring me to my knees and stay there? Or am I going to get back up? That's the wearing the goggles’ part. It's how do I clean it up when it happens? And now my time and energy is actually focused on getting back up instead of worrying about falling down.
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I know him from going to the same university together. I know him from being somebody who's incredibly insightful and empowering and always looking for a way to serve. And I'm talking about none other than Prince Ea. Now, in this clip, he's going to be sharing with you why your perception of yourself is so important, why stopping is a door to real happiness and how to see yourself as you truly are. Check out the segment from the one and only Prince Ea.
Prince Ea: It starts with being, you got to be that person who thinks that they deserve that life, those things, right? That peace. It's not just for them, it's for you. And until you recognize that you were worthy of that, that that's your birthright, that you are a creator, it ain't for you. It's just going to be something you look at a distance and you say, "Yeah, maybe one day or, man, that'll never happen until you can be in that stillness, in that now and recognize that these negative thoughts are just thoughts. They're just clouds going to and fro in the sky. You don't have to believe the thought. I tell people you... We don't have to be loyal to thoughts that are not loyal to us.
Shawn Stevenson: Facts.
Prince Ea: If you have a negative thought, ask yourself, where would that negative thought get me if I continue to believe it, just ask yourself that. And you'll... I mean, hopefully you'll change your way of thinking, right? I studied CBT. I love CBT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I like to call it crushing bad thoughts. 'Cause I think by and large it's the gold standard of therapy and of getting rid of negative thinking patterns. And in cognitive behavioral therapy, they have what's called as a list of maybe 10 cognitive distortions, ways in which we cause our own suffering. There's all or nothing thinking. There's black or white thinking. There's emotional reasoning. One way that I think disturbs most people is called musturbation, right? Another name is shooting yourself.
So, musturbation is when you put a must on reality, you put a demand on reality instead of a preference, they must do that. I must do that, or I should do that. He shouldn't have blocked me off in traffic like that. When you argue with reality, you lose. And not only do you lose, you get beat up. You get beat down when you argue with reality. And so, when we can eliminate the should and the must from our thinking, ah, man, that's... I think when we can come to our own power, we can step into our own power and purpose. And that's when we have a clear mind. They say the mind is a terrible master, but a great servant. And I think for so many of us, the mind is our master.
And I say it's time for a revolution. I can get into language and how... I think it was Ludwig Wittgenstein said, "The limits of my language are the limits of my world." Language is so important, what you call yourself... In anthropology, we learned about this theory called the Sapir-Whorf hypothesis, which essentially is your language determines your reality. I don't think people know how important that is. There's a tribe, I think the Himba tribe in South Africa, Namibia, basically, they don't have a word for blue, so they can't see blue. They can't tell the difference between blue and green. They don't have a word for it. The words, the language creates a reality. So, I think first we recognize this, right? This is the first step to dissolve the polarization, to recognize that all these labels are artificial. All these lines on the map are drawn in sand. We created them, we made them up.
So, once we recognize they're artificial and have no basis in a scientific reality, then we can start living, start getting closer to living in truth. So, I think that's one big step. When you talk about the platforms, the social media, the algorithms. Oh man, it's... I mean, I think it is evil, right? It's really sucking your attention in. There's this old poem from years ago it was called, "If I Was the Devil." And if I was the devil, I will certainly create something like, what we have with social media to keep people focused and, to keep activating the primal parts of the brain and keep people obsessed and addicted and, keep lowering their self-esteem. That's what I would do if I was the devil. So, I think first we have to recognize that we're all one, that these labels are artificial, and that everything that we see, both good and bad, has come out of the human mind, human consciousness. And as Zig Ziglar, used to say, "Who you are is because of everything that's gone into your mind, and you could change who you are by changing what's going into your mind." So honestly, I think everybody needs to stop.
I think silence is so important. The ego has, I think had its run, and I think it's time, to shift who's in charge. But that only happens when the individual takes responsibility. Oh, can we curse here?
Shawn Stevenson: Absolutely.
Prince Ea: Okay. The responsibility, I know that's a curse word. A lot of people don't like it. When we can really become responsible for who we are and how we show up and focus on those seven pillars to get us right, to get the man right, to get the woman right, that's how everything changes. If not, we're just going to continue to be victims of our greed, our profit, our ambition, our desires, and nobody's happy doing that. I've had the chance to meet millionaires and billionaires and people... Royalties and I've also met people with no money in the street of Dhali in India, and there's a joy on their faces and energy that they vibrate that the billionaires just doesn't... Some of them just don't have. So, I think many people have become victims of their ambition, striving for this thing, generational wealth. And what's generational wealth without generational health.
You make a bunch of money, and you pass down the money, but you also pass down the energy you use to get the money. You're carrying... You're continuing a toxic pattern. You're trying to do what you think is right, but you haven't stopped, you haven't recognized that this ambitious desire has never made you truly happy. It's only given you temporary pleasure and pleasure's different from happiness, pleasure's different from joy. So yeah. So, I think we... I think stopping is key. There's this story I love, comes from, this Indian sage named Ramana Maharshi. Huge fan of him. He was a guru that taught a practice called self-inquiry. And super important to, I think it's the quickest way to enlightenment, the lazy man's way to enlightenment, asking yourself, who am I? So anyway, there's this story from him and this disciple he had this guy, he traveled 1000s of miles to come to India and meet this man. And when he met him, he bowed and touched his feet. And he said, master, can you tell me who I am?
And Ramana, he said, go back to where you came. And everybody around was like, what? How insensitive? Go back to... This man, traveled all of these 1000s of miles to get to here, and you tell him to go back to where he came? But what he meant was, go back to where you came. Go back to that silence before the beliefs before the concepts. Go back to where you came. And I think if all of us can go back to where we came, what a world.
Shawn Stevenson: Next up we've got another bestselling author and someone who's actually the president of Success Magazine and Success Enterprises. So, he definitely knows a thing or 20 about success. Now he actually comes from a family with a strong history or tie to personal development. His father is Tony Robbins. And Tony was an understudy of Jim Rohn, who's a legend in the personal development space. Now, you would think with these influences that this incredible individual would just be teaming with inspiration and insight and a life on Easy Street, but that's not how things work. All right? He's gone through tremendous struggles and working to figure things out for his own life. And Success Magazine and being the president of that entity was such a far thing removed from his mind and his vision of his own life. He didn't even know he would be in this space. But through a series of events, he found himself in a position to be able to educate and empower other individuals. And he is one of the best in the world to do it. I'm talking about the incredible Jairek Robbins. And this segment he's going to be sharing with you the power of being excellent in your craft and how you can actually bend reality. Check out the segment from the incredible Jairek Robbins.
Jairek Robbins: I was telling you a story in, I think it was 1996, the NBA Finals, it was the Jazz and the Bulls, I hope I got the year right. And I had a chance to go with my dad to one of the finals games we had flown in. It was in Chicago; I think it was a game 6. Michael Jordan was supposed to win that night. So, we wanted to be there to experience it. And fast forward, he missed the game-winning shot, which is never fun when you're at your home court and you kind of missed the shot thing. And it was interesting. I mean, he wasn't in the best mood, and he was frustrated. They just lost the game. It was supposed to be game winner. They had everything set up that night of them winning, like all the things around town.
Like everything was ready to go and it just, he missed the shot, which is, was rare, but it happens. And so afterwards we had a chance to go into the tunnel and wait just to say, hi to him very briefly as he was kind of heading his way after the game out back home. And so, we were waiting in the tunnel, and you could look around and see the energy of the people, and it was kind of like nervous and relaxed and just people after a game saying, Hey, and talking to each other and stuff like that. And then all of a sudden I said, it's kind of like Neo in the Matrix where when he finds out he can bend reality, how the walls bend, all of a sudden you could see the energy of the room bending, moving, or humans kind of like popcorn where the energy was just turning on in people because, and I didn't see it was him.
I just saw the energy started to change in that side of the room. And then people over here started to kind of energize. And then people over here started to energize and people over here started to energize. And then I was like, oh, shoot, it's him. And as he moved through the room, the energy kind of popped like popcorn in the different people who started the notice, he was there moving into the room. And I noticed that, and it was one of the first times in my life I was like, wow. He kind of bended the energy of the room as he moved through it. Like, that's interesting. And the piece that I said to you was, I don't know if it's some like magic superpower hid inside of himself that as he walked through the room, it was him doing that. Or was it the perception people had in their mind of who they thought him to be that was causing them to experience the bend in reality as he moved through it and for them to show up?
Jim Carrey said something interesting. He said the cool part about being super famous and the way he's well known all over the world is when people meet him, they present their best self, meaning they energize all the way up and then present the best version of themselves to him when they see him. And I went, wow, I wonder if that has to do with him, or I wonder if that has to do with the perception of who they think he is. And I think it's a combination of both. I think it's a combination of who that person has decided to be in the world. And these people have produced excellence in their craft. They really have. I mean, Jim Carrey produced excellence in his craft of being funny and acting and being that kind of guy. Michael Jordan produced excellence in his craft.
He wasn't always the most friendly human in the world according to all the footage, but he produced excellence on the court. Like he was one of the best in the world at what he did. And so, when people experienced it, it caused them to present their absolute best to him, which was amazing. And so, I always look at that and I think, wow, how do we seek excellence in whatever it is that we're deciding to be, so that we can cause that leveling up of humans around us? Can we be the type of family person, or can we be the type of human being that just cares? Or can we be the type of person who learns at an insane level?
What can we do with total and complete excellence, so that when we walk through a room, people decide to present their absolute best to us because they're honoring the dedication to the craft that's been there side topic for right now, I think with what's going on in the world, so much chaos, so much uncertainty. I just saw an article that one of the number one concerns in America right now is people concerned about being able to buy groceries in the near future. Like there's some real concern going on. I think something that's given me immense certainty at any stage of my life when I've done really well in business, when I had nothing. [laughter]
I was trying to figure out how I was going to pay rent, 'cause I had credit card bills and stuff stacked up and not enough money. I had more bills than money at that point. And so in between all those, something I learned a long time ago from the beginning was what they used to do way back in history, which was you honed a craft, it was called, What's your craft? And you went and found a very specific thing. Oftentimes you found a mentor, oftentimes you became an understudy, or I'm trying to think of...
Shawn Stevenson: Apprentice.
Jairek Robbins: An apprentice. You became an apprentice of someone who had mastered a craft so that they can teach you how to master the craft yourself. And the craft was a basic way that you brought value to society. And when you had mastered a craft, you could go anywhere in the world and take the mastery of that craft with you and provide valuable additions to the local society you belong to. Which means you could trade for food, you could trade for a place to stay, you could trade for a life to take care of the ones you love. Somewhere in my mind around 16 years old, I said, okay, what are the crafts or skills I'm going to master that would be relevant anywhere in the world, in any village, in any situation that if I had these tools I could go anywhere and have the ability to know, you could take me to a place I've never been, with people I've never met in a place I don't speak the language. And within a short period of time, I.e., five to seven days, I could trade for food, trade for a place to live, trade for a lifestyle and trade to be able to take care of the ones I love.
And what's interesting is when you master skills like that, with that intention, where the economy goes, doesn't make a difference. 'Cause you know if all those failed, you can go anywhere in the world and within a short period of time add and enough value that you could take care of the ones you love and have a great life. And so, in times like this, I go back to the basics of have people chose to master a craft. Anything? I mean, you could master listening as your craft. You could master talking as your craft. You could master book writing; you could master cupcake making. It doesn't matter, find your craft. But if you chose to master a specific craft, you can look at places in the world and say, where would this be valuable? And I could at any moment relocate if I had to. Which many people have over the years, through wars and situations in the world they've had to relocate. But find your craft to give yourself the courage and the confidence that no matter where I go, I'll find a way to have a great life.
Shawn Stevenson: We're now at our final segment in this inspiration compilation. I hope that you're enjoying this. To wrap things up, we've got one of my favorite conversations that I've had recently and somebody who truly, his energy fills the room. There's no wonder that he is an absolute superhero on the big screen. And this movie star I'm talking about the star of the superhero movies, Shazam, and also other roles like playing in the biopic of Kurt Warner, American Underdog and many other incredible films. This is a segment from the one and only Zach Levi. Now I'm telling you now again, you might see somebody on social media, or you see their movie and you can't really get a sense of is this person really about that life? Are they really congruent? And I'm telling you, Zach is a real one. He truly is even in our full conversation; he was addressing the absolute travesty that's happening in our society with drug companies being able to manipulate science and manipulate marketing and to put their hooks into our citizens and so many other things that we discussed. But most importantly, we talked about being able to empower oneself and to be able to cultivate a degree of self-love in a world that is constantly telling us that we're not enough. And so, in this segment from the incredible Zachary Levi, you're going to hear about the power of vulnerability and self-love. Check out the segment from the incredible Zachary Levi.
Zachary Levi: You are not the voice of your mind. You are the one who hears it. And if you can't recognize that, your mind's going to tell you all kinds of stuff like, like it did to me, you're not worth anything. Nobody cares. You're f*cked, you f*cked up your life, you're a failure, you're all of these things. And when you just sit in your own thoughts all the time because you don't have other people to bounce that off of or tell you that you have worth, even if by just existing, yeah, that's going to lead to a myriad problem in the rest of your life. Ever since I was a kid, I love people, I've always felt called to love people, to bring as much joy to this world as I can, to bring as much healing into this world as I can to be a leader within that. And I love that we can go through really gnarly sh*t in our life. And if we can trust that to God, the universe however somebody wants to kind of acknowledge that power, that presence, there's redemption in that. And it's not just redemption for you. Like I went through this gnarly stuff that I almost didn't survive. I'm so grateful that I did.
But being able to talk about it, people have said like, is that really hard? Is it scary being vulnerable? I'm like, to be perfectly honest, it's not. It's really not. Because every time I've ever been vulnerable and I try to be vulnerable quite often, to be... 'Cause I'm like... I try to be as transparent and authentic a person as I can. And in doing so, you end up making yourself vulnerable. But it's only ever brought good to my life, net only positive. I don't, there's not like there might be some person, some Yahoo out there is like, like, I can't believe he that person did that. I can't believe they would say that. But that's just 'cause they're dealing with whatever they're dealing with in their own heart. And that's part of what we talk about in the book. It's like recognizing that everyone is on their journey, everyone is doing their best. And to anybody out there who's listening to this right now, like give yourself a f*cking break. You're doing the best that you can. You are, it might not feel like it, but you are.
And then in that, through that grace, have a little more grace and patience and empathy with yourself. And then go and love on yourself. There is real, real power in our ability to tap into that energy. It's real. I mean that if our negative thoughts affect our bodies negatively, which even physicians can agree that that is a part of it, then why isn't the opposite true? And it is true. It is true. And when you get enough people altogether focusing positively on the same thing, you can manifest really big things. Guess what people, that's called f*cking prayer. It's, we've been doing it for 1000s of years. Prayer, manifestation, whatever you want to call it. That's what that is. And it's real. And I think that if we can tap into that together communally as a as people, we could change all this. We could change it tomorrow, but we have to... But again, getting to that point means really getting to a point where you can love yourself. Love yourself so that you can love others. So, you don't have to go bully those other kids in school. So, you don't have to go treat other people like sh*t. So, you can really genuinely be a part of making this world a better place.
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